My Dad, Part 2

JohnIt is never easy to visit the grave of anyone… But it is even harder to fail to visit.

I felt as if I were introducing my children to my father for the first time. Because, ultimately, I don’t think they really understood until today. There is something about kinesthetic learning that cements things for us.

We stopped to buy flowers and my granddaddy encouraged the kids to pick out some. I was amazed to find some blue (albeit altered to look that way) daisies. I remembered how adamant I had been at the young age of 8 that I take my daddy blue flowers. The nice florist looked for blue and there were none to be found so he took some carnations in the back and sprayed them with blue paint for me.

The drive out to the base in Pensacola, Florida, was not only the first time my children had seen where my father is buried, but also the first time they have been on a military base. My daughter trembled and didn’t feel safe. My son was fascinated.


My daddy at work.

My granddaddy’s wife sat and arranged flowers while my children noted the dates and names of the many soldiers around him. My daughter was in awe of how straight the rows were and that they seemed to go on forever.

“This place is really sad,” she finally sighed out.

We placed the flowers and took pictures and then headed out to lunch and trip to the aviation museum where my kids sat in every cockpit they could and pretended to fly. They also took a couple rides in a flight simulator that had 3-D visuals and really moved 360 degrees.

The bittersweetness of the day will be remembered for a lifetime to come. I think my daddy would have been proud of them.


About supportmidwifekatiemccall

Katie McCall was born at Pomona Valley Hospital in Southern California by scheduled c-section as a frank breech due to the current medical system insistence that breeches should always be delivered that way. Katie's father's family was filled with teachers, her mother's family was filled with healers. It is no surprise then, that she went on to have her own two children and spend her adult life involved in a combination of teaching and healing through midwifery, childbirth education, doula work and serving families in Southern California. Katie attended USC for her general education and then went on to study with the American Academy of Husband Coached Childbirth to become a certified childbirth educator. Shortly thereafter, she certified as a birth doula (labor assistant) with the Association of Labor Assistants and Childbirth Educators. Katie was also mentored through a pregnancy and birth support business called The Birth Connection in Glendale, CA, which Katie later purchased and expanded to include a 1500 square foot education facility, retail store and birthing center. She enrolled in midwifery school and apprenticed with the midwives who ran the birth center as well as with midwives who attended homebirths. She sold her business to pursue her midwifery education full time in 2006 and passed her midwifery (NARM) exam to become a Certified Professional Midwife in 2008. She went on to gain her Midwifery License from the State of CA Medical Board in 2010. Katie has received supplementary education in lactation to become a lactation educator, vaginal birth after cesarean support, support of sexual abuse survivors, aromatherapy and is neonatal and CPR certified. She assisted over 500 couples through childbirth education and attended over 550 births as of 2011. As a Southern California native, she has a wide range of experience, serving mothers from diverse backgrounds. She believes her job is one of empowering women to develop their own trust and connection with their bodies and their babies during their own unique journey into motherhood. If she has learned anything through her experience with birth, it is that every birth is as different as the women who are laboring. On August 17th, 2011 Katharine “Katie” McCall, a licensed midwife, was convicted of practicing medicine with out a license for a 2007 birth she assisted as a student. The charge arose from a home birth where Katie's supervising midwife could not arrive because she was at another birth. Instead of leaving the family to birth unassisted, Katie stayed. She recommended that the family transfer to the hospital and the family refused. They were aware that she was only a student midwife and that she was unable to secure an overseeing mid
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One Response to My Dad, Part 2

  1. Ellen says:

    I know he is proud of them, and tremendously proud of you!!!! ((hugs))

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